This section is intended mainly for non-Western expats coming to the US for the first time.

Meeting people

Visitors from more conservative cultures are often surprised at the ease with which Americans converse with those they have only just met. Public places that are designated for group activities are great places to meet people.

However, personal safety and the fear of crime are often uppermost in the thoughts of many Americans so it is important to avoid acting in any way which might give someone cause for concern when meeting them for the first time.

Body language (common gestures)

To say "Hello" with a gesture, wave one hand side ways in the air above the shoulder of the same side of your body, and smile. Smiling and making eye contact in the USA will get you a long way, and help you to make friends. Say "Hello" often and be pleased whenever a person says the same to you. Whenever someone moves away from you, let them. If you like a person, either indicate that he or she is welcome to come closer to you, or move closer to the other person. Watch their face closely to find the right distance.

Relationships, marriage

There are diverse beliefs about marriage in the USA. The general consensus is that marriage should be to one partner (at a time!), and if someone is going to have a baby (or has just done so) the parents should marry each other or should already be married to each other. Expectations differ from one place to another, within different social groups and over time however.

Special occasions, birthdays, Christmas, etc.

Giving presents and spending time with friends and family are traditions enjoyed by most Americans during major religious holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

Volunteering, charity

Some people in America decide to volunteer their help to others. This is not a requirement of civic life, however, and there are many who do not volunteer. Keep in mind, though, that volunteering can be both very rewarding and an excellent way to make new friends.

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