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Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Morocco

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Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Morocco

Post Posted: Fri Mar 19, 2010 5:08 pm

Assalamu alaykum, Dear Sirs and Madams,

I write to you in the hopes of finding a solution to my desperate problem.
I am of German nationality and fell in Love with a wonderful Muslim Lady from Morocco.
We plan to marry and inch'Allah have a happy and healthy family and raise our children by Islam.

But my fiance has great problems with her family. For money and traditional reasons they do not accept me,
also because I am not Moroccan. The want to marry her with her cousin and they do not care that I am a good Muslim!

Her Father is dead so her brother is her guardian. I know by Islamic law she should not be forced into a marriage.
But they don't care. since they found out she is very unhappy her brother even beat her.
I am afraid the will take away her phone and passport and lock her in the house!

What can I do. Now the whole family is in Tunis for visiting their cousin.
Is there a way to protect my woman from this evil? Also she is virgin and being married by force and sleep with this man is like rape to her!

Is there a way to take her into protection by some house and for me to marry her and her to come to Germany?

Is it a money question? Please help me, I am very afraid of what might happen to her.

Thank you and may Allah protect You!

Ma'a as-salamu
Adam Al Hakeem

 

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Re: Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Moroc

Post Posted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 3:35 pm

If it is true love, fly there and take her away. I'd have done it immediately. She could be married right now for all you know.

 

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Re: Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Morocco

Post Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 1:37 am

Salam Adam

Information is power!
Your fiance needs to be armed with the 'family code' the Moudawana. This is new legislation from 2004 to stop such happening, women have far more equal rights in Morocco now. But this is a male dominated culture and while the King is very advanced most of the rest of the men in Morocco are not - they have a habit of not telling women about the Moudawana. It's also possible that the brother of your fiance doesn't know about it either. Sometimes it's not talked about as some people, the many traditionalists, think it goes against the Quoran e.g. it's virtually impossible for a man to have a 2nd wife, never mind 4 as it says in the Quoran.

Anyway, you can find it on the web, I have it in English and a summary in Arabic. Once your fiance has hold of it she needs to find a womens' association to help her fight with it - it's the Law. I live in Essaouira and know of a womens' Assoc here but I don't know for the rest of the country.

It will work out the way God intends for you, hamdulila
Blessing from Allah on you both and your fiance's brother to see clearly.

Kirsty


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Re: Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Morocco

Post Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 1:45 am

Salam Adam

Information is power!
Your fiance needs to be armed with the 'family code' the Moudawana. This is new legislation from 2004 to stop such happening, women have far more equal rights in Morocco now. But this is a male dominated culture and while the King is very advanced most of the rest of the men in Morocco are not - they have a habit of not telling women about the Moudawana. It's also possible that the brother of your fiance doesn't know about it either. Sometimes it's not talked about as some people, the many traditionalists, think it goes against the Quoran e.g. it's virtually impossible for a man to have a 2nd wife, never mind 4 as it says in the Quoran.

Anyway, you can find it on the web, I have it in English and a summary in Arabic. Once your fiance has hold of it she needs to find a womens' association to help her fight with it - it's the Law. I live in Essaouira and know of a womens' Assoc here but I don't know for the rest of the country.

It will work out the way God intends for you, hamdulila
Blessing from Allah on you both and your fiance's brother to see clearly.

Kirsty


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Re: Please help save my fiance from forced marriage in Morocco

Post Posted: Tue May 04, 2010 1:52 am

here it is...
www.hrea.org/moudawana.html

Kirsty


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