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adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 7:28 pm

been here 3 months now, and life is good, socially,physically but mentally i'm just not coping as well as i thought i would.
I miss my mum and eldest son though i'm not pining for them, but only in the last week or so i'm asking myself (no,not actually talking to myself!!!! i haven't lost the plot yet!!!!!!!) what am i doing here, i hope it's just a phase as i can't think of any reason to be missing england and i have no overwhelming urge to go back, just i'm not feeling as settled as i did when i first came here, i suppose there was such a lot to do when we first got here and now we have nearly got a routine, life is life wherever you are.
what do you think i should do go back to england for a week to see if i want to come back here? or should i stay away for a few months more before i visit my family just in case i confuse myself?
perhaps i should get a couple of buckets of prozac, lay in the sun and stop thinking so much! Sad Sad Sad

 

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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 8:03 pm

Why dont you get them to come over on holiday, they will love it and you will get to see them. We now see more of my partners family now that we live here than before. We were only about an hours drive away and never saw them. When we go back to the Uk we cant wait to get back to Spain.

 

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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 9:45 pm

- mintybbrave

been here 3 months now, and life is good, socially,physically but mentally i'm just not coping as well as i thought i would.
I miss my mum and eldest son though i'm not pining for them, but only in the last week or so i'm asking myself (no,not actually talking to myself!!!! i haven't lost the plot yet!!!!!!!) what am i doing here, i hope it's just a phase as i can't think of any reason to be missing england and i have no overwhelming urge to go back, just i'm not feeling as settled as i did when i first came here, i suppose there was such a lot to do when we first got here and now we have nearly got a routine, life is life wherever you are.
what do you think i should do go back to england for a week to see if i want to come back here? or should i stay away for a few months more before i visit my family just in case i confuse myself?
perhaps i should get a couple of buckets of prozac, lay in the sun and stop thinking so much! Sad Sad Sad



I guess theres always going to be an initial period of excitement with a new life, but as you say after a time you must realise that you are living there and you get into a routine.

You are bound to miss your family. No doubt about that, but the way I have approcahed this from the start is that we intend to pop back to the UK fairly regularly (every 2-3 months), and we are asking them to not even hesitate about coming to see us. In that way I hope to have the best of both worlds.

But going back after such a short period?? I think that would be a tremendous error of judgement.

 

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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Sun Jul 30, 2006 10:47 pm

I agree, missing your family is normal. So is asking yourself those questions. But if you are happy with your life then you should stick with it. Let them come visit you, I would think they would be anxious to do just that for a nice cheap holiday. If like you say you really do not want to move back to the UK then you will continue to adjust to your new life. Just enjoy it. Have a drink and sit by the pool.


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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 2:30 am

There's always teething problems you either get through them and stay for a long time or go home within the first year. My advice if you WANT to make spain your home and feel homesick DO NOT go home for at least a year.

Ive been through every emotion living here, from loving it, to hating it , loving it again etc ....

 

Raquel
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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 4:28 am

I totally understand how you feel, having lived abroad.
I desperately missed my family and came home for a holiday after 6 months.When it came to the end of the holiday it was even harder to leave than I had anticipated, so I stayed.
After a couple of months back in the U.K. my life was back to how it had been before I left. Although I had my family (whom I love dearly) I was now back in the rut that I had wanted to leave in the first place.
My brother whom I had been very close to before I left, had moved away to live with his girlfriend. Other peoples lives had moved on.
I think when you are away from home you remember all the good aspects and get home sick.
Get friends and relatives to come and visit you as often as possible.
If you return now feeling as you do, you may end up doing as I did and staying which would be such a shame. I quite often think what if.

 

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Re: adjusting to living here

Post Posted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 9:18 pm

Hi Minty
Just stick it out - sure it's only a phase now all the mad rush of setting up a new home abroad has fallen into place. Agree with what everone says - get your people to fly over and see you. Perhaps you may want to give them a gift of free tickets! A bit of late September sun would do them all good.
Start now and plan the places you will take them - things about your new home and town you want to share, plan a BBQ - make a list of what you want them to bring e.g. TeeBags etc - all sounds quite exciting! My sister has been over loads since we moved out and loves it.
Sure you will be OK, just give it a bit more time and get the invites out.

 

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